Frequently asked questions
What should I do if my child ignores me when I speak to him?
Approach them, make eye contact, and give a brief, specific instruction. If they don't respond, calmly repeat the instruction once and apply an agreed-upon, consistent consequence.
Is it better to punish or to reinforce when someone obeys?
It works best to reinforce positive behavior frequently and use proportionate consequences only when necessary, always with consistency.
How can I get him to listen the first time without yelling?
Reduce repetition: provide clear instructions, a start time, and a predictable consequence. Maintain a calm tone and avoid lengthy arguments.
What happens if my partner and I are not consistent with the rules?
Inconsistency leads to confusion and increased disobedience. Agree on 3-5 basic rules and consequences, and apply them consistently to establish a stable habit.
How do I adapt these strategies according to age?
With young children, use very simple instructions and visual routines; with school children, negotiate rules and responsibilities; with teenagers, establish clear limits and agreed consequences, maintaining dialogue.